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Emotional Structure: Explaining, Mapping and Building

adimoga — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:50:02 +0000

Before building this graphic scheme I have to tell you the rules which stay at the base of our emotional construction, from my point of view.

1. The single universal Normal that stays at the base of the construction of everything in the Universe, including relationships between people, is when two forces attract or reject.
2. We all want to love and to be loved in the same time, and we try to reach this not only in the relationships with the others around, but also in everything we do each day, in other words we all want to be the most appreciated, the best in what we are doing, meaning we want the exercising of the chosen one’s position, which in short words is called love.
3. What is our psychic and where it is localized: the psychic represents the flow of energy exercising on our biological matter, being actually our affective structure, and this is proven by the fact that many times the emotions take over brain’s control.
4. Our emotional structure grows on a field formed by feminine love, in which the maximum is given by the mother, and the masculine love, where the maximum is given by the father; of course, an important factor is constituted by brothers and sisters who can take or not the position of a parent, and not at last, everyone around us who, in time, could leave their fingerprints on our own affective construction.

In the process of disassembling our affective structure and creation of the graphic scheme, I took as example a 35 year old person who had both parents along life, and whom I classified the life periods at the same generic level characteristic to each of us: childhood 1-14 years old, teenage 15-25, and adult from 26 and up.

The questions for the identification of the relationship between that person and the mother:

The questions for the identification of the relationship between that person and the father:

We place the results for these questions in the above graphic scheme, to see which the pluses and minuses from this person’s emotional structure are.

The hachure from the graphic scheme represents what the person will try to complete in order to exercise the chosen one’s position, meaning love.
In the system I’ll create and place here on the site, where each of you will be able to create his/her emotional structure, I’ll take into account each emotional structures of the persons you’ll describe - if the parents were present in your life or not, the position of each of the persons who existed in your life and his/her role.
Depending on the questions you’ll answer to, I’ll search for the generic values of each individual’s affective structure, so you will be able to compare at a later time your emotional structure with others’, to complete what you’re missing affectively, and to understand how you were built affectively, while later to know how to build affectively as well as about the attention you have to give the ones you educate.

Emotional Structure: Mapping Feelings

adimoga — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:17:42 +0000

First we have to define the feeling. A feeling is an emotion, both at the physical and psychological levels, which we position in our perceptions depending on the persons who shape us, as well as on the society we live in.
To position a feeling we have to know which the limits are, both maximum and minimum, which we can position in our perceptions, and these are:
a. Very good
b. Very bad
In the image below I drew the graphic on which we’ll classify the feeling with respect to a person (mother, father, brother, etc.). This classification will be made by dragging the green bar in the direction which you consider to fit the question best.

To find out each individual’s position in your emotional structure, there will be questions like:

In the same time we have to map also the relationships between each individual and his/her parents and we’ll do this by asking a question that may have a single answer or multiple answers.

The entire mapping can be created if each of your will answer the questions honestly.
In the next post I’ll explain to you the affective map that will contain the above questions, plus other values of reference.

Emotional Structure: First map

adimoga — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 19:53:31 +0000

A few months ago I decided to build a system through which any user could have the possibility to create his/her own emotional profile, in other words, to make a map representing the user’s affective structure. With this system I hope I’ll be able to demonstrate the key of relationships between humans and, why not, their connection via a rule which I see standing at the construction’s base of the world in which we live. The rule states that when two forces attract or reject, it is the single universal main rule.
Initially I started this system by asking questions like “how do you get along with your father? how do you get along with your mother?…etc” to see which one you get along well with and which one you don’t, of course, if any one of them exists in your life in a form or another, anyway I got to the conclusion that first I have to draw a map with all the people around us who can contribute in the shaping of our affective, meaning with whom you can socialize and have some feeling exchanges with.

Also, all of the persons that we can socialize with can have several roles, like for example an older brother or sister can have the protector role for the youngest, and in this position he/she can have the role of the father or mother.
In the following posts I will explain how I’ll make the emotional map representing you in relation with the person you get in contact with, as well as the information you need to know in order to classify that person in your emotional structure.

No Coincidence

adimoga — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:16:38 +0000

Many of us have brothers or sisters, older or younger, fact that contributes in shaping our ego, through our position in the family.
During a discussion which I had with my brother a few years ago, I deducted the following schemes:
1. When a child is alone in the family, he/she risks becoming a selfish child, because of the fact that he/she has never shared love and everything was given only to him. It can happen in the opposite way as well, as a child who is alone in his/her family actually wants to share, and he/she will probably do that with the friends around, as well as with his/her life companion at a later time.

2. When there are two children in the family, the older one feels put aside when the second child appears and at that point the competition occurs. What happens in general when there are two brothers, is that one of them goes on the mother’s side while the other one goes on the father’s side, change which helps in shaping their egos.

3. In the above scheme I’ve represented the older child’s feelings, from before the appearance of the third child.
When the third child comes on the scene, the older one realizes better what happened with him/her as the second child came, and he/she will explain to the one of the middle age why this one feels put aside since a younger child appeared.

For example, if you have a younger brother or sister, you should know it is not a coincidence the fact that you get along well with someone and at a later time to discover that he/she has an older brother or sister.
All the things that form us affectively, including the family relationships we had with our brothers or sisters, will reflect onto the relationships we will have with the others around, along our life. The only thing we’ll do regarding this will be to multiply this type of relationship, but under the shape we prefer unconsciously, which will integrate the desire of having the things we have been missing.
Obviously all of these schemes can have many more possibilities, but I wrote only those that I believe they are the most general.

Sensation White Amsterdam 2008

adimoga — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:17:11 +0000

Lots of my friends asked me why I didn’t post some pictures on my blog from this year’s Sensation White event, so I put myself to work sharing some images, and continuing building my personal identity over the web, with the help of this blog.

This year I was with Rodin (which was also the last year), Cristi, and his girlfriend Nicoleta. Cristi is an old friend of mine with whom I share a lot of nice memories , and we also work together at PetsFunky.com and Hugamate.com, because he is very talented at making jokes:).

To say a few words about this year’s Sensation White, the music was better then last year, which made the event more beautiful. An exception was made by the Dj. Tocadisco who got nervous because the organizers did a huge mistake by not saying the Tocadico’s name when he stared mixing, saying Marco V instead, and Tocadisco got angry, but he should have understood these mistakes can happen and should avoid other problems. After 15-20 minutes of his work people started to leave because of the shitty music, and I think he realized that and started mixing like a Dj.
Here is a video from Tocadisco work(the nice part recorded by Rodin).

And here are some pictures

And final words… we will go again next year so.. keep in touch