Before building this graphic scheme I have to tell you the rules which stay at the base of our emotional construction, from my point of view.
1. The single universal Normal that stays at the base of the construction of everything in the Universe, including relationships between people, is when two forces attract or reject.
2. We all want to love and to be loved in the same time, and we try to reach this not only in the relationships with the others around, but also in everything we do each day, in other words we all want to be the most appreciated, the best in what we are doing, meaning we want the exercising of the chosen one's position, which in short words is called love.
3. What is our psychic and where it is localized: the psychic represents the flow of energy exercising on our biological matter, being actually our affective structure, and this is proven by the fact that many times the emotions take over brain's control.
4. Our emotional structure grows on a field formed by feminine love, in which the maximum is given by the mother, and the masculine love, where the maximum is given by the father; of course, an important factor is constituted by brothers and sisters who can take or not the position of a parent, and not at last, everyone around us who, in time, could leave their fingerprints on our own affective construction.
In the process of disassembling our affective structure and creation of the graphic scheme, I took as example a 35 year old person who had both parents along life, and whom I classified the life periods at the same generic level characteristic to each of us: childhood 1-14 years old, teenage 15-25, and adult from 26 and up.
The questions for the identification of the relationship between that person and the mother:
The questions for the identification of the relationship between that person and the father:
We place the results for these questions in the above graphic scheme, to see which the pluses and minuses from this person's emotional structure are.
The hachure from the graphic scheme represents what the person will try to complete in order to exercise the chosen one's position, meaning love.
In the system I'll create and place here on the site, where each of you will be able to create his/her emotional structure, I'll take into account each emotional structures of the persons you'll describe - if the parents were present in your life or not, the position of each of the persons who existed in your life and his/her role.
Depending on the questions you'll answer to, I'll search for the generic values of each individual's affective structure, so you will be able to compare at a later time your emotional structure with others', to complete what you're missing affectively, and to understand how you were built affectively, while later to know how to build affectively as well as about the attention you have to give the ones you educate.